Conditioning

Taufik Pasiak, neuroscience expert storytelling, a time when still in high school and became a youth activist in the village mosque and in school, he felt to be a very easy worship. These feelings arise every time he heard of a religious teacher who lectured with good, touching his feelings, even tell about heaven, hell, accompanied by the words are beautiful and fit the situation. When I heard it all, she was determined after the recitation, he would pray with truly, and will carry out all religious orders.

In short, he'll be the best. Determination was very strong and hard so that his mind when it is focused right to the activity of worship. He felt to be a very faithful and feel closest to God. The first day, second to the third he really worship. Unfortunately, the fourth day his spirits began to slacken. A week after that, he was back to normal. "Hot-hot chicken shit", proverb for him who admitted his own. He was ashamed to call myself as a person close to God.
In another incident, Taufik also recalled once burst into tears when following the Eid sermon. A familiar figure in Manado sermon delivered beautifully. Her voice is steady and firm, tone and articulation that he was so charming illustrations accompanied by a very good story to make it touched. Most of those present became so fascinated and in tears. At that time he also determined to serve and be a good person since that moment, like the intention that happened during high school. He came home with a burning passion, doing something well and serve with a steady, and reducing other wasteful activities. Unfortunately, it lasted only four days. After that, he did worship as ever. Her feelings go up and down, his faith is not stable, changing all the time. 

The situation experienced by Taufik Pasiak, which experienced problems does well by most humans, is an experience the process of conditioning (conditioning). This term is a term taken from the field of psychology, called behaviorism. Behavioristic is the study of human behavior, which is looking at individuals as being reactive to respond to the environment. And maintenance experience will shape their behavior.
The hallmark of this theory is to prioritize the elements and a small part, is mechanistic, emphasizing the role of the environment, concerned with the formation of a reaction or response. In this theory says that human behavior is controlled by rewards or reward and reinforcement or reinforcement from the environment.
This conditioning technique used in a lot of training associated with self-development.You are told to watch a sad movie first, which confuse the blue, which makes your tears were shed, your feelings vacillate, or you are told to watch a movie that makes you amazed, awed, amazed, and sat silent. Your feelings are conditioned in such a way as to then be filled with certain doctrines.
Such conditioning touching, make your heart torn apart and became very emotional. You are easily moved and mesmerized. Unfortunately, the effect is temporary and very small to be able to change attitudes. Why? Because, according to Taufik Pasiak, this approach does not change the way you think. The way you look at the issue has not changed because of this. Point of view remains as before because nothing has changed from your perspective. This method is useful only for a moment. 

However, continued Taufik, if you truly want to change themselves and for all in life, recognize themselves, especially the way you look at the problem, then tailor it to your life goals. Learn from the scriptures and ancient books about wisdom. We will find that all the wise people and wise people who managed to change are those who begin to change the way society thinks. They touch people's point of view about God, the universe, and yourself. Most of them are not the orator who can make people cry, but the champions of change of mind that can make people aware of for good. 

Conditioning is associated with emotional conditions. Who's emotional condition is strongly influenced by the way we communicate. Therefore we need to understand how good communication with each other motivation for going on between everyone. The first one, try to bring the joy of our communication. Can be done while terseyum, playfully, and other means of fun. We also need to look at the right time to talk about something serious problems, must not talk. In this case also, the motivation can arise when we're good emotional condition. Fact is, as experienced by Taufik Pasiak in the story above. 

The real world is your mirror and your mind is a magnet. If you think, act and speak negatively, then the world will be negative as well. If you think, act and speak enthusiastically, then the world will respond with enthusiasm. You yourself will not bring people on the road mind you, but you yourself will bring other people on your feelings and beliefs. 

Below is a description of the solutions offered by taufik Pasiak above, about how to us consistent with our feelings in doing good things. First, make yourself in a state of pleasant emotions. Act the Way You Want to feel and soon you'll feel the way you act. In fact, not only emotionally, but also logic. Emotions will encourage us to keep the spirit and consistent, while the logic encourages us always to consider the steps progress ourselves. 

The human brain is functionally composed by two parts: the part that deals premises emotional activity (performed by the limbic system, particularly the amygdala) and are dealing with rational activity (performed by the skin of the brain. The skin of the brain is also possessed by some animals, but with poor quality good). If you run across a rice field, fell and seriously injured, the amygdala would quickly record the incident. This is exactly the conditioning activity using illustrations. At other times, when you intend to pass it back field of traumatic feelings you say to not participate because it would fall and get hurt again. It's called "hijacking" the amygdala. You will lose balance when it's self. However, if the skin of the brain (ratio / logic) you are trained enough, piracy does not happen. "You immediately think that I could not possibly hurt twice, I would be careful climbing the embankment and will be holding something in order not to fall." Said Taufik Pasiak in best-sellernya Brain Management for Self Improvement (Mizan: 2007).
Second, use problem-solving approach (problem solving) to promote ourselves if our emotions are sadness, anger or fear to joy and pleasant conditions. Thinking problem-solving to make our lives will feel easy and light-light, because we always focus on problem solving rather than the problem itself. 

Below I want to tell you again what is told by Taufik Pasiak of conditioning process in a person. A funny thing, the process is not from religious teachings, as an experienced Taufik own.
"Contact me, an intellectual and renowned communications expert Dr. Jalaluddin Rakhmat never tell a similar story when I visited his house in Bandung. One time when he prayed the afternoon prayer was very close to God. He read a long paragraph to enjoy the closeness it. Prayer is usually practical-practical or principles are to be filled with prayer rituals long. Taste-it seems he did not want to finish so close right with God.Whereas before, when prayer verses he uses short, swift movements, and a brief prayer. "I wonder", he told us, "not once I became a believer like this." Over the past few days because he was seeking a contributing factor in the next day of prayer, he no longer felt the same. He did a kind of footprint trace to find out the cause. He found the answer and laugh about it. Apparently, then, he has just finished watching a telenovela with stories of pain that made him sad, brought emotional, sentimental, and like to cry. In mood that accompanies it when he did pray. "